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The Customer is NOT always right

  • April 12, 2023

I have been in some form of Customer Service for the past 34 years. Wow! That statement made me feel old. Okay, back to my point. Way back when, the phrase “The customer is always right”, was ingrained in our minds and we were taught to always give the customer what they wanted. I’ve even had bosses that have told me that as long as a client pays their bill, to let them talk how they want.

Having grown up in a family business, I’ve always known that the customer is what keeps the business going. Do we bend over backwards? Sure, if it can be done. One of my aunt’s told me that my grandfather had told her not to allow a client to cuss at them on the phone and if they did, she had every right to speak up and ask not to be spoken to that way. However, unfortunately my grandfather was not in charge of my adult life paycheck and I had to be quiet and listen to what my boss required.

There have been a few times where I have said something to a client. Sometimes it was to a young Airman (I lived near a large Air Force base) and it was usually because they were too immature to realize that they needed to speak properly. They weren’t confrontational, just using phrases such as, “This is pretty sh*tty that I have to go through this paperwork” or “So, where the h@ll do I find that number.” Usually, that wasn’t such an issue. However, the minute that a client uses any form of foul language in a combative way or makes accusations, I will stop them immediately.

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“Excuse me, please do not speak to me like that.”

Guess what… There is NOTHING wrong with that.

I know that some of you are going to think that is disrespectful to the client and that the client has every right to take their business elsewhere, and they do. Just like I have the right to do that when I do not like service at a particular place.

However, here is what I am getting at – STOP being rude to people!

One of my co-workers that is probably one of the nicest people I have met but has unfortunately allowed people to walk all over her, has had quite the week with clients. Yesterday, a client made her cry.

A woman called and right up front let my co-worker know that she preferred that her husband makes these calls and she is upset from an issue OVER a month ago that was not completed to her satisfaction. This “Karen” told Amanda that she had issues with logging in online A MONTH AGO and wants to know why Amanda didn’t fix it then. Amanda politely told her that she didn’t realize there was that issue a month ago but she will be more than happy to fix it now. Karen continued to berate her by telling Amanda how she had not liked her in the 20 YEARS that they have worked with her, how Amanda doesn’t give her good service, how Amanda should have known that she (Karen) couldn’t log in to the site, and on and on.

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When Amanda began to softly cry, this Karen said, “Oh good, you’re crying. Even you know you can’t do your job.”

Unfortunately, there are people these days that think that because they are able to hide behind a phone, whether it’s by speaking directly to another or online, they feel they can treat others however they want to.

My sweet co-worker called the company, explained the situation, and begin tearing up while talking because of the awful way she was treated. This company felt so bad for Amanda that they told her they would immediately call Karen and have this taken care of.

So, who won in all of this? Karen. Why? Because she was mean. Once again, she got away with her attitude.

There are so many articles or reviews out there that complain about customer service, and I always wonder what the customer was like…

Were they expecting miracles…

Were they rude to begin with…

Does acting rude make them feel powerful…

Generally, we have wonderful clients and will bend over backwards for everyone, whether polite or rude. So, if we’re going to do that, what is the point in being rude to someone else? If you’re mean to strangers like this, even to people you may know, my guess is that you are a very unhappy person and nothing will make you happy. Perfect customer service will never be enough for you.

The next time you find yourself wanting to be rude to someone, just to make yourself feel better, stop and consider this… You are potentially ruining someone else’s day. If you are the type of person that doesn’t care that you are affecting another with your words, then YOU are the problem.

Yes, I said YOU!

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While I understand frustration in Customer Service situations, I am proud when I see companies stand up for their employees and not allow customers to treat their staff poorly. Employees that feel protected will do more for their company than the ones that feel dismissed. Also, I can promise you that the service you will receive when you treat others with respect, will be exactly what you are looking for.

My moral of this story… Think about how you are treating others. Is this how you want to be treated? Would you be okay with someone calling you at work and telling you how they don’t like you and that you are an awful person? No, you would not. So, be nice.

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Dear Men, Don’t Be Creepy

  • March 10, 2023

While scrolling through my notes section in my phone, I came across this from a few years ago. I think of the issue with my bosses often and wish that more men would be aware of the culture they are creating.

There was a man at the gym this morning that really made me feel uncomfortable. We walked in at the same time, exchanged good mornings… Then he said, “There’s that smile I love.”

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In my head, I thought,

“Who the $&!% are you? I’ve never seen you.”

A few minutes later, I choose the elliptical that is last in line and guess who goes to the one right next to mine when there are six others to choose from? As I was turning my headphones on and syncing up the Bluetooth, he offered to wipe down my machine. Politely I said, “No thank you. I’m good”, because I was taught to be polite. He walked about 10 feet away and started doing some stretches so his machine looked unoccupied. Whew! Until another gentleman came walking up to hit and then creepy guy jumped up to claim it. What did I do? I stopped my machine, cleaned it off and walked away.

The man that had walked up, I didn’t get creepy vibes from him at all. In fact, I was thankful he came up, as if he was giving me a buffer. But, as I walked over to a tri-cep machine, I felt creepy guy looking at me. He then went to a machine that faces the mirrors and I still felt highly uncomfortable. I did my reps and went to another and was facing a co-worker of mine who was about 15 feet away. We made eye contact and I motioned my eyes to the guy then made a shivering movement. Not only did she understand what I meant but the Special Ops looking guy that was on another treadmill must have, also, because I saw his posture change. At that moment, I felt safe.

So, creepy guy left the gym after only being there less than 15 minutes…

Why am I telling you this? Because it has dawned on me that most men, just don’t get it. Men are naturally physically stronger than most women… I totally get that… But, I am 5ft 4in and while I would put up a fight, chances are… The man will overpower me. That is what women deal with ALL THE TIME! 

I kept working out, but my mind went back to YEARS ago when I had a very creepy client that I just couldn’t deal with any longer. He was in his 60’s, with dyed jet black hair and he would make comments to me about “making love”.

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I finally went to my boss and said, “Michael, can you PLEASE have someone else take over his accounts? He gives me serious heebie jeebies.” I was laughingly told, “Oh, he’s harmless!” My reply, “He offers to sing me songs about making love.” The boss laughed again and said, “He pays his bills. Suck it up.”

My mind then wandered to a few years ago when another male client that gave me the same feeling entered my office. He would call me darlin’, sweetie, honey… But, I remembered my boss from years ago telling me to suck it up because he pays his bills. So, I did. I acted very professional, and discussed the matters we needed to. Yet… He would still come in or call with questions for me… And each time, my guard went up. Imagine when a few months later, I hear from my boss that the client sent an email letting my boss know that I am not very friendly and that he “must remind her of some ex-boyfriend that talked down to her”. Yes, you jerk! You do!!!! I explained to my boss that he just gives me heebie jeebies and I just can’t.

“You have to act professional.”

“I am.”

“You have to be nice.”

“I can’t.” 

“You’re making too big of a deal about this.”

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Luckily, he was switched to a different rep and funnily enough, he quit coming in often with random questions. However, the results are two fold… On one hand, I had women in my office thank me for trying to tell the boss about this guy because they were all creeped out by him, too. But, on the other hand, my boss treated me different after that and I knew that some of his respect for me had left.

Here is what I am getting at… Men, pay attention!

First of all, I’m hoping you are not that creepy guy, but if you are, STOP! But, if you are that co-worker, boss, family member, fellow gym person, male friend… PAY ATTENTION!

If a woman says that a man makes her feel uncomfortable PLEASE do not brush her off. Accept what she is saying and acknowledge it. Do not make her feel like less of a person.

Step in.

Protect me.

Make me feel like I am safe. 

Because the threat is real… And it has gone on too long. 

While editing this piece, I felt my heartrate speed up and the anxiety started to take hold. I never want another woman to ever feel like I felt. If you are a male boss, support your female employees. If they feel uncomfortable, acknowledge it and make sure they feel heard.

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