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Pirates Privacy Act – Girl Code

  • August 23, 2020

In February 2020, six of us girls decided to take a cruise for Galentine’s Day and what better way to ensure that we were all on the same “page” than to create a privacy pact, similar to girl code on a bachelorette party. But, this was a cruise so we needed a fun name, plus we love themes! So, during brunch prior to boarding, we read each code out loud, then signed our names.

This agreement dated February 13th, 2020 pertains to the Carnival Fantasy Cruise. Whereas, all attendees as named, for their mutual benefit and pursuant to an ongoing friendship, which has been or may be established, can safely assume that they are able to be their happy drunk selves on this trip and are free to drink, giggle, flirt, dance, sleep in, and any other activity in similarity that may arise, without being judged.

For a period of the rest of our lives, all named above, shall hold this agreement in trust and confidence, and not disclose to others any crazy stories that will make even one of these ladies look like any less of the strong independent women that they are. If it would cause another personal embarrassment (even if you think it should not), you are held to this agreement to not disclose said matter.

The undertakings and obligations of all attendees also agree to honor the following ~

The use of Spanx or any other undergarment to manually fit our body in to a piece of wardrobe WILL not be judged or even acknowledged. As far as we are all concerned, every single one of us come by the smooth lines naturally.


The use of Poo Pourri or whatever your room has designated, will be used EACH AND EVERY SINGLE TIME. However, as a kindness to your roommates, especially for Room M199 with four people, it is highly suggested that you go elsewhere so as not to block off the use of the bathroom for an obscene amount of time.

Do NOT record anyone out on the dance floor. If they are “called up” to a stage or any platform to perform, vide os acceptable ONLY to send directly to them upon wifi availability.


There is a strong possibility that while being in close quarters, body parts may be seen. We are all women, we’ve all seen a vajayjay, rumpshaker, and boobies before. If you need to change, change away! HOWEVER, please make every attempt to not sit on your bed, “Indian style” (criss cross apple sauce) naked as a jaybird.

If someone is stupid drunk, NO photography.

If you are the one that is stupid drunk and feel the need to puke, DO NOT expect anyone to be there for you and hold your hair back.

If Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, happens to be on this boat and you decide to go and make a love connection, please send someone a message as to the room number (in case we need to look for your dead body).


If some stranger wants to get a bit too close and you are uncomfortable, please make it obvious that you are not happy with the attention, and we will remedy this.

Should there be a group of other women and drunk happy you thinks we should all be best friends, you are the designated friend and will be the oe to break it to them that we won’t all be making friendship bracelets and brushing each other’s hair.


You are not to take offense to anything Megan or Sheila says before coffee. In fact, please do not provoke them.

No judgement on something someone does while sleeping – teeth grinding, snoring, talking. If they begin to make sexual noises, permission to throw a pillow at them. However, it will not be mentioned the next day.

No posting on Social Media of anything even possibly embarrassing. If you think it is in bad taste, it probably is.

STAY OFF YOUR PHONE!!! this is an “Electronics Free” trip. If you have international and plan to check in when we get to Mexico, please go stare at your phone elsewhere. If you feel the need to play some downloaded game on your phone, go elsewhere.


Be respectful of people! If you are cranky, go somewhere else until you are happy. Do not bring others down.

Absolutely, NO peer pressure. If someone doesn’t want to get on stage and sing an Adele song off key in front of 100 people, do not try to force them. However, if they do have the guts to get up there, cheer them on and be proud!


If you are calling it a night earlier than the rest of the group, make sure to send a message on the cruise app or tell TWO PEOPLE before you leave, so we don’t think you are taking a swim with the sharks.

As we are trying to keeps this an “Electronic Free” trip, the messaging system in the app will not be monitored like texting. If a message is sent saying, “Where are you?” because you are wandering around looking for something to do, and there is not answer, do not be upset for someone being in vacation mode and napping by the pool.


Some people take more pictures than others. PLEASE try to remember to take candid photos of those people, also, so they don’t miss out on seeing memories.

We are all adults. Find the humor in all of the above but most of all, remember that what happens on the ship, (SAY IT OUT LOUD), stays on the ship.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the attendees have execute this Agreement as of the date first above written.

Megan, Kiki, Sheila, Bambi, Donna, and Shakira

Books

The Last Train to Key West, by Chanel Cleeton

  • August 16, 2020

July’s book club choice was Chanel Cleeton’s third book in her series based on the Perez family, and since we had previously read Next Year in Havana and When We Left Cuba, we were very excited about the follow up. Following is the description by Amazon…

In 1935 three women are forever changed when one of the most powerful hurricanes in history barrels toward the Florida Keys.

For the tourists traveling on Henry Flagler’s legendary Overseas Railroad, Labor Day weekend is an opportunity to forget the economic depression gripping the nation. But one person’s paradise can be another’s prison, and Key West-native Helen Berner yearns to escape.
 
After the Cuban Revolution of 1933 leaves Mirta Perez’s family in a precarious position, she agrees to an arranged marriage with a notorious American. Following her wedding in Havana, Mirta arrives in the Keys on her honeymoon. While she can’t deny the growing attraction to her new husband, his illicit business interests may threaten not only her relationship, but her life.
 
Elizabeth Preston’s trip to Key West is a chance to save her once-wealthy family from their troubles after the Wall Street crash. Her quest takes her to the camps occupied by veterans of the Great War and pairs her with an unlikely ally on a treacherous hunt of his own.
 
Over the course of the holiday weekend, the women’s paths cross unexpectedly, and the danger swirling around them is matched only by the terrifying force of the deadly storm threatening the Keys.

I am just going to say it… I was not as thrilled with this book as I was with the others. It was a very easy read, but it felt like either some plot moments dragged on, while others could have been enhanced. We felt that the book was written in a rush and we were not able to develop a strong bond with any of the three main characters. Although their stories did entwine at the end, it would have been better if it was written as three books so we could feel the depth of each character, instead of having it given to us in such rapid fire. However, like I said, it was an easy read and it did lead each of us in our book club to research more about that era and to learn about the camps set up in Key West for the WWI Veterans.

Do not read any further if you have not read the book.

Book Club Questions ~

Helen ~ from Key West, married to Tom since 16, they had been childhood sweet hearts.

John ~ Veteran living in the WWI camp, frequent patron at restaurant that Helen works for

Mirta ~ from Havana, married Anthony because he paid her father in a poker game.

Elizabeth ~ from NYC, went to Key West to find her brother, a WWI Vet.

Tom ~ husband of Helen, fisherman, abusive.

Anthony ~ involved in mafia, owns casinos, husband of Mirta.

Sam ~ works for FBI, went down to Key West per the request of Frank to follow Elizabeth.

  • What did you think of The Last Train to Key West compared to the other books in the Perez family series?
  • What did you know about this book’s subject (hurricane, WWI camp) before you read the book? Did you learn anything new?
  • Was there a narrative better than the others?
  • Helen and John have both experienced trauma due to violence. How does it shape them and are there any similarities? What doy ou think of their relationship and how they build it?
  • Mirta and Anthony’s marriage changes throughout the novel. What shifts do you see in their relationship? What roles do they take on, and how do they evolve in those roles?
  • Do you think that Elizabeth flirts out of habit or because this is what helps her get what she wants? Were you surprised at finding out who Sam really was?
  • Mirta and Elizabeth both come from wealthy families that have fallen on hard times. What similarities and differences do they have and how do those influence the choices they make throughout the novel?
  • During the Depression, marriage rates dropped significantly. At the same time, marriage plays an important role in the characters lives. How do the heroines view on marriage change throughout the novel? Do the women find power in their relationships?
  • What parallels do you see between the effects the hurricane has on the characters and that of fighting the Great War?
  • Were you surprised to hear about the Veterans lives after they came home from the war and some of the challenges they faced?
  • What did you like best about the book?
  • What did you like least about the book?
  • Which characters in the book did you like best?
  • which characters did you like least?
  • If you were making a movie of this book, who would you cast?
  • Which character in the book would you most like to meet?
  • If you could hear this same story from another person’s point of view, who would you choose?
  • What questions do you still have?

Commentary ~

Helen and John seemed to have had the most organic feel to the “couples” developed within the story. Their personalities really drew us in, however it could have been because they were the first narrative in the book. They did find power in their own selves, being able to lean on each other. Mirta and Anthony’s love story didn’t ring true, probably because it was pushed too fast and you were just supposed to buy in to this sudden development. Had it been a longer book or time to develop their stories, it would have been plausible. Yet, Mirta found strength and learned to become more assertive, finally telling Anthony, “You can’t lie to me.” While we appreciated Elizabeth and her seeking of independence, we didn’t feel the overwhelming love that her and Sam all of a sudden announce. But, she did join the FBI, which says a lot for a woman of that era recognizing her own value.

I wasn’t overly thrilled with the comparison of a War and a hurricane. I live in a military community, and although I have been through a hurricane, I have heard the stories of war. But, in comparing for the book, with both, you think you can prepare and you try. You do all of this training and purchase supplies, yet you have no control over either situation. I have been through a Cat 3 hurricane and although I had “flashbacks” for about a year, I will not compare a hurricane to wartime as every day of war would be like going through a hurricane every single day, repeated trauma and constantly on edge.

Some in our book club felt that there wasn’t enough scenery to describe the locations; I did not have a problem with it. I live in Florida and my mind knew just enough to create my visions. That being said, I have never been a fan of overly descriptive locations, just give me the basics.

Aunt Ruby, now that is a character that should be developed for her own book. We were given just a glimpse of her, but we felt that she has a back story that is worth exploring

The Last Train to Key West ended like a bow put on a present… “Here, everything is tied up all nicely and everyone will live happily ever after”, it felt too orchestrated, but we did like finding the thread to what finally connected them all.

Finally, we still have questions ~ Why exactly was Elizabeth searching for her brother? I mean, we understand wanting to find your brother that took off after the war. But, there were very non-specific comments that we were never given a good reasoning. How was he supposed to save her from her marriage or what was she hoping would happen?

Like I said, it is an easy read and I do hope that Chanel Cleeton develops the characters in this book, because each one would be a great story in itself, but it just felt too rushed.

Life

In The Moment

  • August 16, 2020

The power of a look. How can a look say so much? We look people in the eyes every day, but when there is a certain glance… Across a room, in the mirror, when looking up from reading… So much is said, it’s as if you can read that person’s mind. A slight touch when passing by… Why do people take this for granted? Do they not feel someones finger tips brush their arm… Can they not feel the warmth that is passed through the skin… What about the butterflies when you can feel the person near but not touching… The stolen kisses in a doorway on a crowded street. The sense of belonging to each other for just a short amount of time… Knowing that this is it. This is the only time that we will have. Living in the moment.

There will be certain things and places that you will never look at the same again ~ a particular meal, a sweet tasting wine, the faded blanket, hint of cologne, a rain drenched car… All of these will bring back a feeling and you will sit. And you will smile. And you will remember the feeling of enjoyment. You will remember briefly the intensity of the eyes that sparkle with life and burn with desire at the same time. You will remember the touch that felt like you couldn’t let go. The hand that felt like a feather as it brushed the hair away from your face…

Go ahead, remember the first kiss that was so light and soft where your breath was taken away, knowing in that instant, you could have fallen in love… Instead, we didn’t.

We look back with fond memories that pop up at the oddest of times… A song on the radio that isn’t even about love, yet it serves as a reminder of the laughing and smiling, a moment that just the two of us shared. Leaning back in your chair at work looking out the window and a certain vehicle drives by, and you will remember… Just for a moment.

I’m glad that I had this chance, just for a moment, to feel delicate, beautiful, smart, sexy, like I could move mountains… All of this because of the way you looked at me. Keep that look. Look at me again one day, just like that. And smile. Smile at the memories that were made. Don’t have any regrets. We lived in the moment…

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